5 Things Planning our Wedding Taught me

Hello, beautiful! I hope your week is going fabulous thus far. Monday I was able to play model for the day for Next on Scene Magazine's spring issue. I can't wait to see how the images come out. I was able to work with a group of fabulous boss babes. Anyway let's get to the bridal, shall we?

There is no secret that planning a wedding is not easy. It is truly bananas how much time goes into one event that goes by within a blink of an eye. Looking back on the planning of Ricky & I's wedding, we learned 5 valuable lessons.

1. Who our real friends are- Throughout planning & even after our wedding we found out who are true friends are. This isn't always the easiest lesson to learn & it is just a fact of life that friends will come & go but it was definitely eye opening. We are both extremely understanding people & always give others the benefit of the doubt but, any kind of relationship works two ways. 

2. You can't please everyone- You know that phrase, "You can be the juiciest peach but, not everyone likes peaches". It's true! I don't like peaches. But, really R & I tried hard to please everyone but, it got to the point where we stopped worrying about everyone else & planned our wedding for us. Yes, you want your guests to enjoy themselves but, at the end of the day we paid for our own wedding so it was going to be our way.

3. How well we work together under pressure- While planning our wedding as the big day approached we decided it would be a great idea to buy a house as well. (Hello stress) During this time we really learned how well (or not so well) we would work together. In our case we made a really great team. We kept open minds & communication. This just solidified our relationship even more than it already was.

4. Time management- Like I said R & I were crazy people by planning a wedding & buying a house simultaneously. We had to prioritize. I put blogging on the back seat for a couple of months to focus on our personal lives. We also tried to accomplish more tasks earlier rather than later so when we were looking at homes we had more time to put towards that. I made countless to do lists & was constantly re-prioritizing. This was so unlike me (when it comes to my personal life). I consider myself a "hot mess" (an organized hot mess) & save everything till last minute. This time in my life I couldn't do that.

5. Budgeting- As I mentioned prior R & I paid for our wedding by choice. We didn't want to complicate things for our family & if anyone wanted to contribute, we wanted them to contribute how they were willing & able. Having a $25,000 plus wedding & buying a house you can imagine that we had to get our finances in check. We stopped going out as much, every once of our disposable income went to our wedding fund. This was super beneficial in the long run as we have carried over these habits & we are comfortably able to pay our mortgage.

Well fash dolls these are a few valuable life lessons R & I learned while planning our wedding. It isn't an easy task but remember to breathe. Put it in perspective, this is just one day. It maybe one of the most important days in your life but your lifetime with your significant other means so much more than this day. Enjoy it as it only happens once. If you ever have questions please feel free to contact me thru social media or by email (check out the contact page). Till next time babes.

Stay Sassy & God Bless!

Wedding Dress Shopping Tips

FullSizeRender Yes, I am the weirdo on the far left that had found the perfect dress for my fiancé and I's upcoming June 2016 wedding. I am accompanied by some of my lovely bridesmaids! Based on my wedding dress shopping experience here are my tips. Whether you have been dreaming of your ideal wedding since you were a little girl or are single I hope that you find these tips helpful for yourself or a friend.

Research!

When it comes to anything wedding related or making any major life purchase it is key to always do some research. I would first start by defining a budget. There is nothing worse than falling in love with something you can't afford. Next I would look to Pinterest for inspiration! Have an idea of what looks good on you and what style you are interested in. Look for particular designers you are fond of within your budget and the bridal shops that sell them.

Who Should you Bring?

Who and how many people you want to bring is entirely up to you! If you can handle a lot of different opinions open it up to your bridal party, sisters, mum, mother-in-law, and whoever else you want to bring. Maybe you would like a smaller entourage, your mum and sister(s) I feel like are always a must! It is what YOU are comfortable with, this should be a fun time.

Where Should I Go?

You remember that research you did? Use it! Set up appointments with bridal boutiques you found that carry the designers you are interested in. Maybe you want to go to "Say Yes to the Dress" NYC's salon Kleinfeld or maybe you want to stay local. It is your experience! I would suggest making at least 3 appointments with different salons. Avoid overwhelming yourself by only trying 8/10 max dresses for each appointment.

Keep an Open Mind!

Try to keep an open mind when you are shopping. I thought that I definitely needed buttons on my dress but, the gown I fell in love with didn't have buttons. Maybe you thought you had your heart set on a certain shape but, you might try another style that looks even better. You will know when you have found the dress.

Decide and Celebrate!

Say yes to the dress already! I literally found my dress at the first store that I had gone to. I went to another bridal salon after to try more and I still couldn't get my dress out of my head. Go with your gut and choose what makes you feel gorgeous! And of course don't forget to celebrate. Pop a bottle of bubbly and enjoy the fact you checked another big to do off of your list :)

I hope this helps! Till next time dolls. 

Stay Sassy + God Bless xo

 

7 Tips Your Wedding Photographer Wants You to Know

I had the pleasure of meeting Stephanie at a Boston Bloggers event a couple months back. She is a super talented photographer and has some excellent advice, enjoy!


Concord MA Watertown MA Wedding Photography Stephanie Rita Photo_0017Maybe you only have 44.7 days left until your wedding, or maybe you JUST got engaged and are in the beginning stages of getting ready for your wedding! My biggest tip when choosing a photographer is to make sure you love their photos AND their personality! They will be the one person you'll spend the most amount of time with on your wedding day! Even more than your spouse! Crazy right!

Once you hire a photographer, there are many little things you can do to help your photographer create those amazing shots on your big day. These tips ensure that photos will look clean and gorgeous! Cape Cod Buzzards Bay Wedding by Stephanie Rita Photo_0000

  • Most wedding gowns come on a standard white plastic hanger, which look good, but not the best. I suggest asking for (or gifting yourself) one of the personalized last name hangers or finding a cloth one that matches your wedding color scheme!
  • Clear your prep room of clutter! Pick one corner of the space where your girls/guys can leave their stuff. You’ll be happier if t-shirts, coffee cups and sneakers aren’t in your “getting into the dress” pictures.
  • Have your girls get into their bridesmaid dresses before you get into your gown. That way, when it’s time for you to get dressed, your ladies will look fabulous and the photos will look more put together!
  • If you and your fiance are planning to sit at a sweetheart table, make sure you can see past the flower arrangement or centerpiece on the table. If you can’t see past it, there’s a good chance your STURBRIDGE HOST HOTEL photography by Stephanie Rita Photo_0090photographer can’t see you, so keep it low!
  • When the officiant pronounces you "husband and wife", hold your first kiss for longer than 2 seconds! Regular kisses are so quick that sometimes it IS possible for your photographer to miss it! Count to 5! Make out a little! Don't be shy, you're married now!
  • Well before your wedding day, make a list of important family photos and pick a ‘point person’: someone who knows who is who, and knows the time/place of the photos! Family pictures will go faster and smoother if you aren’t all running around trying to find Uncle Bob!
  • And just because I love them: White string lights, lanterns or votives give a really nice ambience to your reception space and your photos! Just saying!!

KEENE NH Wedding - New Hampshire Wedding Photography - photography by Stephanie Rita Photo_0024There you have it! A few useful tips to help your photographer create the best photos they possibly can! We all thank you in advance :)

Stephanie of Stephanie Rita Photography, based in Boston, MA

www.stephanieritaphoto.com @stephanie_ritak @stephanie_rita