Hello, lovely! I hope your week is off to a great start. Today we are going to put the fashion on the back seat & get a little personal. We are talking forgiveness which has a common misconception of weakness. Personally I think a forgiving person is a stronger person.
I'm sure you can think of a time or two (or a million) when someone has hurt you. A big one for me is one of my parent's infidelity which resulted in abandonment issues. Other things that come up just off the top of my head quick are other people's ignorance or just completely selfish acts. At one point in my life I would deal with the hurt in completely unhealthy way like leaning on a relationship but when that relationship fell apart so did I. For the most part I deal with it in a much healthier way but I'm only human.
I want to chat with you today about the healthier approach. It was only recently maybe a couple of years ago that I changed my thinking about forgiveness. I had a meeting with my mentor which my abandonment issues came up again she said to me something along the lines of "Forgiveness doesn't mean that you have to forget it but forgiveness gives you freedom." This has stuck with me since. Like I had mentioned earlier sometimes its easier to remember this than other times but it had changed the game for me. Forgiveness sets you free. Forgive whomever it is that has hurt you. 1. They probably don't even know that they hurt you 2. It may not make a difference to them & they'll most likely continue to do whatever they want. When you forgive you don't have to forget but maybe set up boundaries to protect yourself & your heart.
When I changed my attitude about forgiveness to align with freedom, I was able to start chipping away at all the things that I had built up. Rome wasn't built in a day but I definitely have a sense of peace that I didn't always have. Maybe you read this article & already were aware of this or maybe you read this & your mind was blown just like mine. I honestly hope it helps just one person.
Anyway want to talk email or DM us on social! Always here to chat. Tune in Friday for our regular scheduled fashion post :)